Being With More Of Ourselves
We often get used to being with ourselves in a particular way. We let ourselves feel only so much, think only so much, engage only so much. At first, these limits feel safe—survival patterns meant to protect us. But over time, they become quiet prison walls. Our fire dims, and life starts to feel muted, as though we’re running on autopilot.
The invitation is not to fix, but to notice. To slowly and gently begin allowing more of ourselves back into the light.
Signs It’s Time to Be With More of Ourselves
Life feels repetitive, like muted colors on loop.
Emotional or relational patterns keep replaying without change.
There’s a quiet ache—something missing you can’t name.
Your energy is drawn toward survival, not aliveness.
Joy, depth, or emotional expression feel far away.
Parts of you—creative, tender, wild, wise—haven’t had space to grow.
These are not failures. They are signals calling you back to yourself.
How to Move Into the Process
Notice patterns. Ask what feels stuck or unfinished.
Feel beneath the surface. When emotion arises, pause. This is central in both somatic therapy and EMDR therapy.
Check if it landed. After rest, journaling, or a conversation, ask: did this part of me truly receive care?
Stay with it. Growth is revisiting and nurturing, not a one-time revelation.
Seek resonance. Being witnessed by a therapist, mentor, or friend helps inner parts know they are not alone.
For more, see my blog: The Subtle Emergence of New Parts After Trauma Healing.
What Happens When We Are More With Ourselves
Silenced parts begin to breathe again.
Creativity and depth rise naturally, not forced.
Wholeness replaces fragmentation.
Relationships deepen because more of us is present.
Life shifts from survival into meaning and vitality.
We give from overflow, not depletion.
Being with more of ourselves is not about perfection. It is about reclaiming inner landscapes once left behind, so we can live with greater authenticity and depth.
Resources as Gateways
Therapy: EMDR therapy, somatic therapy, inner child healing, parts work (IFS), wilderness therapy.
Meditation practices: Vipassanā, Zen, Metta, mantra meditation, walking meditation, shamanic journeying.
Community: Circling groups, meditation sanghas, spiritual development circles, group therapy.
Creative expression: Journaling, expressive arts therapy, SoulCollage®, process painting, authentic movement, 5Rhythms, contact improvisation, voice work.
Curious how creativity weaves into healing? See my blog: When Subtle Growth Becomes Visible.